I had my surgery on aug 17,2017 and I still find myself struggling I’ve become more depressed and there’s days that I don’t eat I’m not sure if it’s normal but I’m just not hungry. I started at 285 I am now 247 but I just feel as though I can’t see the results and Im still feeling sick at times. Someone help!!
Someone help!
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Christine Seese
Active Member
Hi Jasmine! 
First off, as someone who has suffered from depression, you have me worried. You should be happy right now with this exciting change in your life. Not being hungry is actually normal after surgery. Your stomach was just decreased in size and your body is trying to figure out what is going on. It is very important that you eat at least a little something, even if you aren’t hungry. This will probably help with your depression and will keep you from getting sick. Make sure you do this!!!!
First off, as someone who has suffered from depression, you have me worried. You should be happy right now with this exciting change in your life. Not being hungry is actually normal after surgery. Your stomach was just decreased in size and your body is trying to figure out what is going on. It is very important that you eat at least a little something, even if you aren’t hungry. This will probably help with your depression and will keep you from getting sick. Make sure you do this!!!!I would say I have good days and bad days and seems as though the bad days are occurring more often, I just get tired of not being able to eat or keep anything down. I’ve been drinking plenty of water and trying to have something but it just doesn’t stay down. Far as my weight loss if feel like I should have lost more by now
Pixx
Member
Welcome to the group! I hate to read that your having so many issue after the surgery.
So the biggest thing I've noticed since joining this group is that a very common theme in reading the forums is how a large amount of sleeve surgery patients lose weight at a much slower rate than other patients. It takes a lot of patience on their part as it seems to be a slow process. But so many are successful over time, so don't lose hope!
Lack of protein causes a stumbling block in weight loss, along with fatigue and nausea, so I suggest you get at a minimum, the daily grams, and try to work your way into higher amounts as your body adjusts and heals.
I have a very blunt surgeon, who is kind of like 'House' from the show. Rude yet brutally honest. I like him, most don't, but he is very good at what he does. When I went for my first checkup, I was having similar issues. I wasn't hungry and I'm still not hungry. I have an extreme nausea side effect and had a major chest repair that made swallowing anything but fluids nearly impossible for a long time, {4 months and counting} even now, eating is so very difficult. He smiled, and said "Your protein is your energy, your lifeline right now after surgery. It's what will get you out of bed in the morning and able to function throughout the day. Lack of it will either put you in the hospital or cause your heart to give out. It's your choice. I don't care how you get your protein, but it is essential, so make it happen if you want to live and be successful."
So, even if I have to plug my nose and drink an awful protein shake, or eat yet another bowl of soup that I've had to add protein powder to, I do it. Not because I am hungry and I have no way of knowing if I will get to keep it down, but because it is part of this journey and I know that it is essential. I would encourage you to figure out some way of getting in your protein as best you can. It's hard, but you can do this!
Also, please remember your not alone. So many people here have gone through the same or very similar circumstances. We get it, we are here for you, and I hope you are able to work your way through the issues. You can do this! Take things one day at a time, one pound at a time and don't let things overwhelm you. You can do this! Don't give up!
Carolyn270
Member
I'm glad you shared what your surgeon told you in regards to protein. It's a wake up call for me. I have been putting off the shakes because they make me go reodorize the house. Nobody seems to like that much, lol. But I guess we are gonna have to deal cause I will get back to the shakes starting in....five minutes. No wait.. 15 minutes. Lol. Thanks again.
mary simmons
Member
Hi jasmine I feel the same as you. I'm a month and three weeks out and I'm not losing weight but I'm not giving up
Carolyn270
Member
Hi. I'm glad to read that you are not giving up. I am around the same amount of time our and I don't bother with the scale (not too much) because I know I am doing what I was told I would be. These first few months will be challenging and somewhat disappointing because the body slows down in order to adjust. And we have to try to stay motivated daily. Things will look up. Just keep on like the little engine that could.
Pixx
Member
I really like that perspective Carolyn - "...the body slows down in order to adjust." When your doing the scale thing week after week and you lose that perspective you kind of set yourself up for failure, at least I did! I went almost 2 weeks of no weight loss and was thinking I was broken and what was I doing wrong? Then the next time I weighed myself BOOM - 9lbs gone. I read multiple posts about the weight stalling struggle but when you go through it yourself, it seems to cement your understanding so knowing that it could be the downtime your body needs for adjustment can really help calm the nerves. Thanks!
Lori W
Member
I'm like you Jasmine. My surgery was 8/14. My weight loss seems slow. I do feel hungry occasionally but for the most part I'm eating when I'm not hungry. I'm having bouts of depression, this has not been easy. I struggle daily with getting my protein in. Someone on here told me I should be getting 80-100 grams of protein daily. I'm nowhere near that. It scares me that I could be damaging my heart because of that. I want to be healthy and most days I feel like I'm failing horribly.
Pixx
Member
Hey Lori, the struggle is real! Are you getting at least 60 grams of protein a day? That would be okay for not putting your heart at so much risk, it's the 'maintain' goal anyway. I feel like I'm on a roller coaster with protein sometimes. Some days I can get what I need, others I get the bare minimum or not enough, however I think the first few months were the hardest. I am also like you in that I am eating when I'm not hungry, which is so hard! I don't think your 'failing' at all though. This whole thing is hard! I hope things pick up for you soon and your able to adjust fully to the new you!