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need a friend

Feeling a little down today. Could use some encouragment. Just to keep reaching for my goal.
Me too. I want you to picture yourself running towards a finish line wito me at the line in one of those ridiculous cheer leader outfits. Cheering you on. I pictured it and couldn't help but giggle. You have to be a size 4 to fit such. Any way there is a prize at the line. Keep your eyes on the prize.
 
Me too. I want you to picture yourself running towards a finish line wito me at the line in one of those ridiculous cheer leader outfits. Cheering you on. I pictured it and couldn't help but giggle. You have to be a size 4 to fit such. Any way there is a prize at the line. Keep your eyes on the prize.
Thank you for your encouragment. I will picture that and stay positive.
 
We are all here for you, you are not alone, if I need some encouragement I get on here and try to encourage someone else, it really helps me stay focused, and hope it helps you all as well
 
Many, many, numberous days of feeling discouraged. Those were the days that I’d straighten my “crown” hold my head a little higher just to remind myself and those around me that I was on a mission and they were either with me or against me. If they needed help with me placing my foot on their head to keep them out of my line of vision so be it. Try water aerobics, I love rock climbing, and weight lifting. Anything that can be done outdoors that’s where you’ll find me.
 
I love what you said
My friend of 21 years is having a hard time with the changes I'm trying to make to become healthy. She doesn't want me to talk about my journey and is pulling away from me. I've tried to respect her feelings, but sometimes I forget and "talk the diet talk" and she lashes out at me. I don't ever put her down or say anything about her weight or food choices, I just wish she could support me. Her sister struggles with anorexia, so I get it's a hard subject for her, but I need to be able yo make good choices without her making me feel bad about it. We had an argument about it earlier tonight and I'm not sure our friendship is going to survive. I'm broken hearted about it. But as Living Legend said I need to make the correct move for my personal wellbeing. I wish you all the best on your journeys.
 
My friend of 21 years is having a hard time with the changes I'm trying to make to become healthy. She doesn't want me to talk about my journey and is pulling away from me. I've tried to respect her feelings, but sometimes I forget and "talk the diet talk" and she lashes out at me. I don't ever put her down or say anything about her weight or food choices, I just wish she could support me. Her sister struggles with anorexia, so I get it's a hard subject for her, but I need to be able yo make good choices without her making me feel bad about it. We had an argument about it earlier tonight and I'm not sure our friendship is going to survive. I'm broken hearted about it. But as Living Legend said I need to make the correct move for my personal wellbeing. I wish you all the best on your journeys.
Hey there. Thanks for your reply and message. I'm sorry your friend is not more supportive. It does hurt to have someone you love turn away. Is there group meeting at your surgery center? I started to attend these meetings for group support. They give them twice a month where I am. Maybe going to one may help you feel more connected to being able to openly express your need to talk about your journey. I hope you don't stop your progress because of your friend. Keep going toward your goal. Hope this helps.
 
Thanks for responding. I have been so hurt by her attitude. I have been struggling to overcome years of bad behavior and I need friends who help me, not make me feel bad for expressing my needs. I am attending a support group on 2/5/18 so I'm hoping they can help, plus my friend, Coleen, had this surgery a few years ago and has been wonderful. We are both friends with this other women who has had a difficult time with the changes we've gone through, so Coleen understand s how I've been feeling.
 
Thanks for responding. I have been so hurt by her attitude. I have been struggling to overcome years of bad behavior and I need friends who help me, not make me feel bad for expressing my needs. I am attending a support group on 2/5/18 so I'm hoping they can help, plus my friend, Coleen, had this surgery a few years ago and has been wonderful. We are both friends with this other women who has had a difficult time with the changes we've gone through, so Coleen understand s how I've been feeling.
Remember why you are her friend, and remind her of why you are friends. You guys are on a different road right now but eventually you are going to come to a crossing, hopefully sooner than later. She is probably afraid of losing you. When I had surgery I told my husband over and over again that I would always be there for him and she might need to here that from you too, plus with her sister's problem, that is also going through her head and she might worry that you will end up the same way. If you truly care for your friend you will open up to her and let her know how you are feeling and what you are afraid of, and that you don't want to lose her and that you would like some support, she may not be able to give it to you right now but give her time, good friends are hard to come by.
 
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