Feeling obligated to make diner for new spouce.........

[Cindy Landsberg]

How does everyone else feel about making diner for your spouce. I feel so guilty. He doesn't know how to cook much but I have a hard time even thinking about making him meals when I'm on a clear liquid diet. You know it's hard when the dogs food it starting to look good. And what about going out, he loves to socialize, I did venture out to a sports bar with him to watch the Bears game and just drank crystal light. After he and others had a few drinks I realized how stupid they acted. I know I can do this but you really start to wonder about how almost everything we do is focused around Football, Food , Drinking and having good times with friends. Maybe it's just this time of year.........

 

[SwirlWoman]

My husband is getting prepped for the surgery and that is one of our concerns. We ride a motorcycle and each ride is usually to a site where we all go and sit and visit while having lunch/dinner. He is the cook of the family and I have decided to have my main meal as lunch while we are apart at work and then have a liquid diet with him the first few weeks that are going to be so hard on him. Any other suggestions?

 

[Cindy Landsberg]

We are only one week into the liquid diet and I feel for both sides. I feel bad that my husband is having to say he is sorry for eating or drinking in front of me. This is my second marriage & we just got married in Feb. this year. I have been training for this since May with educational classes all summer. I am doing this for my diabetes and I guess wheight loss too..... When we go out I carry a packet of crystal light & just order a bottle of water.. Most places understand especially if you tell them why. We have a favorite place we hang out at & they suport me 100%. (Biker Bar) even thou I don't ride. I think the best advise I can give is be honest to people about it and most will help you through it.....When is your surgery....I have it November 1st...scared

 

[Karenina]

Cindy, Welcome to the forum and congratulations on getting your surgery date. Can you make a few meals for your husband and freeze them? It sounds like he is very supportive, but what you are doing is for YOU. You can't change the rest of the world. And yes, the world does revolves around food. Once you are on regular food again with a little creativity you should be able to attend events and be with friends, even if you have to bring your own snacks. Good luck to you!

 

[SwirlWoman]

Cindy, my husband and I have only been married since last Nov, so this is a big change for us, too. He is the one having surgery and I am trying to read up on everything so we can still be best friends and the love of our lives. He hasn't set the date, but we are hoping for end of the year if possible. I am going to show him several posts from this site to get him more prepped for surgery and post-surgery. I wish you the best in your surgery and new life.

 

[Pat99]

Cindy-Having this surgery is a complete lifestyle change and cooking for other's can be a huge obstacle. It's sad that hubby doesn't cook but that doesn't mean he can't learn. As you progress through your meal plan phases you will eventually be eating things you both can enjoy. You will have to modify the way you prepaed things by omitting fats and using only lean cuts of meat. The bonus is that this will benefit both of you. You can augment your hubby's dinner by making him a side of potatoes, pasta, rice, etc., and you stick with just eating the entree (protein) and a veggie once your appetite picks up. It will eventually work out for both of you. In the meantime maybe consider frozen meals. They actually taste really good and some brands are also healthy.