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Finally approved 6/21/17 feeling blessed.

Christine O

Christine O

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After two denials I was ready to give up. Yet today the surgeon's office called and I was approved. I am ready for this lifestyle change. I have been blessed.
 
Tracy Lindenmuth said:
Welcome Amy, you are going to love this site, we all had mixed emotions, but in the end we are all happy we did it, good luck
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Thankyou for saying hello to me. we all need emotional support and this is perfect. My bariatric councelor told me 2 out of 20 are successful so those odds I try and block out. I can say, I will be the 1 or 2 then that succeed. The problem with me is I dont believe in myself and never have. and those that love me, mainly my best friend, she does. Im doing this for my little boy because I dont love myself dnough to have already done this. I had lost 100 on my own in 2012, but was handed a newborn and stress I never knew before. I like making wrong choices. I get high from carbs. I deliberately plan a binge, I do not lie or make excuses. I use it as a drug. Im 45. surgery is next month. My parents dont believe in me either hecause Ive been a failure at this at least 40 years. I was born a fat baby my mommwas depressed pregnant and she binged 80 pounds. before pregnancy she wasnt heavy. I watched her binge eat and was like born into an eating dissorder and I became heavier then her. so my daughter is 25 and she is heavy after high school but way more active then I ever was! so between the odds I hear, and many personal esteem issues I have to be in this group here because yes I do have regular councelor, bariatric councelor, a nutritionist, regular drs on board and a supportive best friend. But sadly its not a frontal labotomy and so my plan is to keep going to councelors, talk here, and stay in my bariatric surgery group Im in now the past few months. I found this accidently online but its not acidental! :)
 
So glad you joined here! I hope anytime you feel you need encouragement you can turn to this group, it is full of amazing people who have all been awesome at both support and encouragement even through their own struggles. I think you will be a success, and in turn, you will help others on here to be successful as well. I like your plan, and your positive attitude going into this! It is so going to help you in the long run. For the last 6 months I've cut out anyone and any conversation that focused on negativity towards my health or surgery simply because I knew I could very well get pulled into the dark side and wasn't sure I would be able to find my way back out! Yes, it's hard. Very hard at times, and yes, I think we have all thought at one time or another "Why did I do this again?" or "What was I thinking?" and "Was this the right decision?" - So remember, while it's tough, it's worth it. Your doing it for your health and wellness, you were thinking about a better life and yes, it is the right decision. I'm so encouraged by those who are a year out or more from the surgery and are successful and happy and doing things they never could before. Their happiness comes through here and keeps the rest of us working hard to achieve our goals. Welcome to the group, best wishes as you begin your journey!
 
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Thankyou for saying hello to me. we all need emotional support and this is perfect. My bariatric councelor told me 2 out of 20 are successful so those odds I try and block out. I can say, I will be the 1 or 2 then that succeed. The problem with me is I dont believe in myself and never have. and those that love me, mainly my best friend, she does. Im doing this for my little boy because I dont love myself dnough to have already done this. I had lost 100 on my own in 2012, but was handed a newborn and stress I never knew before. I like making wrong choices. I get high from carbs. I deliberately plan a binge, I do not lie or make excuses. I use it as a drug. Im 45. surgery is next month. My parents dont believe in me either hecause Ive been a failure at this at least 40 years. I was born a fat baby my mommwas depressed pregnant and she binged 80 pounds. before pregnancy she wasnt heavy. I watched her binge eat and was like born into an eating dissorder and I became heavier then her. so my daughter is 25 and she is heavy after high school but way more active then I ever was! so between the odds I hear, and many personal esteem issues I have to be in this group here because yes I do have regular councelor, bariatric councelor, a nutritionist, regular drs on board and a supportive best friend. But sadly its not a frontal labotomy and so my plan is to keep going to councelors, talk here, and stay in my bariatric surgery group Im in now the past few months. I found this accidently online but its not acidental! :)
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I feel your pain, I also have a low self-esteem, but it has improved alot since surgery, this may be the kick you need to be the person you want to be, and use those negative people in your life in a positive way, by showing them you can and will do this, we all have negative people in our lives, I use them to help me, I don't want to go back to the person I was before good luck
 
Tracy Lindenmuth said:
I feel your pain, I also have a low self-esteem, but it has improved alot since surgery, this may be the kick you need to be the person you want to be, and use those negative people in your life in a positive way, by showing them you can and will do this, we all have negative people in our lives, I use them to help me, I don't want to go back to the person I was before good luck
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Did you want surgery or were you sort if unsure?
 
Aim said:
Did you want surgery or were you sort if unsure?
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I wanted it in the worst way, I thought about it probably about 10 years ago, but I had children at home and didn't think I could afford it at the time, now my kids are all grown up and living on their own and it was a chance for me to do something for my self, my husband is great and supportive, he loves me fat or thin, I just wish I would have done it sooner than later, my kids could have benefitted from the new me, and the lifestyle change
 
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