Welcome, Weigh-She-Go! Just remember that we are all different for various reasons and don't let that discourage you. I do not compare myself to others who have had the surgery because I have various other medical conditions, and what is my personal best is MY personal best. Most days I get in one shake and have made it a New Year's resolution to have that shake first thing in the morning for breakfast. I feel it starts me off in a good frame of mind. My shake of choice is a ready-made one from Sam's called Premier Protein because it tastes good and has 30 g of protein. I like getting that whopping 30 g into me right out of the gate.
I have always been a very slow loser from the age of 9 until I reached my 60's. (Yes, I've been tested for various problems at least once every couple of years for the past 50 years and have seen some of the best physicians my city has to offer.) If I ate what I considered a well-balanced and normal diet of about 1200 calories, I would not lose at all or I'd gain. I had hoped that after the RNY it would be different, but it is not. The only thing good about it is I feel somewhat vindicated after doctors telling me all these years that I had to be eating much more than I realized, that I was lying to myself and to them, etc. You all know what I'm talking about if you have been fat for many years.
Fkrebs and Dragonfly, I've been wondering the same things as you have since my surgery about 5-1/2 months ago. I have never felt too full, never had any sort of sick feelings, never felt I didn't want that extra bite. I also am not overly hungry which has been a blessing because I follow the plan exactly that the doctor and nutritionist have given me. The fact that I've been successful at all is because I follow the guidelines, use a small plate, take only the serving size I'm allowed, weigh most things that I haven't yet learned how to eyeball, and am making myself satisfied with my weight loss thus far--59 pounds. After all, through past experience I never would have been able to lose that much on my own in a million years. In November, I only lost 2.2 pounds and in December only 5 pounds, but it is still a loss.
Besides losing weight, my main reason for the surgery was to help my diabetes. Unfortunately, I am one of the 1% or whatever the percentage is that the surgery has not helped with my blood sugar. Since I've been on insulin for about 7 years, the staff at the hospital said after surgery I might not be able to stop it entirely but hopefully I would be able to decrease the dosage. The opposite has happened which is quite perplexing as my AIC was higher than ever before and my PCP has increased both my long-acting and regular insulin. It doesn't make sense to me because my meal plan is low carb and added sugar is almost non-existent.
Even with all of the above, I am happy that I had the surgery and will continue on my plan no matter how long it takes for me to lose more weight. I hope that as I lose more that my blood sugar will improve. I am positive 99.9% of the time and am very happy as my clothes become looser and I can go down another size. I also feel better overall, so what's not to be positive about.