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spookykool

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Hi I am excited and nervouse about everything. I am scared that my doctor will cancel my surgery cause he asked me to loose 40 lbs I lost 25 and gained 3 back. I have appointment tomorrow and I just ate a muffin. I am scared I won't be able to do the 2 week presurgey liquid diet. I am scared that I won't loose the weight after surgery. I am scared about what it's going to be like not to be fat anymore. When I was not fat I felt like people treated me like I was dumb. Now that I am fat people treat me way more respectable. They want to hear what I say. I am scared about being scared since I've been fat people think I'm a tuff chick. I am scared of men hitting on me again it's been nice just being able to be friends with men and not having them all over me. I am scared I won't be successful that I'll screw this up somehow. Am i weird or are these normal fears? I haven't even said most of them yet. I know in nk my heart it's all gonna be fine but boy oh boy do i let my head make me crazy sometimes. So back to my original question how do you not starve to death or cheat on the pre surgery diet? The one thing I do know is that if I can do this quit smoking quit eating at sometime I should be able to do anything. Those of you that are ahead of me and have done it my hat is off to you congrats bravo you should really be proud of yourself. I haven't even gotten to the worst part yet and I'm shaking iny boots
 
you've given a detailed and perfect account of how most of us have felt at one time or the other, when our eating disorders are in charge.

You might find it helpful to think of your eating disorder as an actual being, like a small monster or ghost, a being that attacks you and haunts you and tries to drive your thinking. And at the same time, imagine the New You as a heroine, coming to your rescue, punching the evil monster in the nose and protecting you. It might help because right now, you sound like you are helpless and can't save yourself.

put down that next muffin and focus on your goal. Get away from temptations and write in your journal. congratulate yourself about not giving in. for every obsessive thought, which probably comes about every three seconds, replace it with a new image of you and what healthy life will be like, new clothes, new activities, the same solid friendships you've built congratulating you on what you've done, the courage to be thin, which is like going into battle without armor for some of us, and replacing all your thoughts with affirmations.

re-frame your own words:

  • I am excited and nervouse about but I can't wait to be on the road to health
  • I've been scared that my doctor will cancel my surgery but I know that's irrational.
  • I've lost 25 pounds and will lose more before surgery
  • I can lose any weight I've recently gained by sticking to the plan
  • I had a moment of weakness and ate a muffin, but I'm not going to give in again
  • I am scared I won't be able to do the presurgey liquid diet, but I'm going to try hard and I won't be perfect
  • I was scared about losing after surgery, but i know that's impossible.
  • I am scared about not being fat anymore, but I know my friends will support me.
  • When I was thin I imagined people treated me like I was dumb., but I know that's not true
  • people treat me with respect and they want to hear what I say.
  • I am scared about being scared but that's okay, because I'm a tuff chick.
These are your affirmations. Say them over and over and they will become true. visualize the new you and make friends with her. People do NOT respect you more because you're fat. That's your eating disorder LYING to you. No one suddenly stops respecting someone who loses weight. If anything, they will have a new-found respect for you.

If you find it hard to stop these thoughts, get books or lists of affirmations from the internet and just recite them obsessively until you drown out the other voices.

this is happening. Whatever your eating disorder gremlin says to you, it's not going to make any difference.

and do tell someone you trust, like your surgeon or the therapist who evaluates you. As soon as the words come out of your mouth they'll tell you it's normal to have these fears and you're going to be fine. But just stick with the plan and soon, it will all be over and you'll be able to start a new life.
 
Rmezzo said:
It's natural to be scared,I am. You work hard to get this ,if you are young it's going to be worth it.I am older but am looking forward to traveling with my husband. Eat a lot of sugar fee jello and popsicles during the 2 weeks before. Good luck
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If you don't mind me asking, how old are you? I'm 52, 53 in May. I look at all those Instagram successes and don't think I'll be looking all that hot after surgery. Seems over 50 look older in the face as they get thinner. I'm thinking I'm going to lose my hair and look wrinkled. Lol. Somebody please tell me I'm wrong.
 
Yes, you'll loose some of the fullness in your face... but you'll be loosing fullness in your face! No more double chin, appearance of cheekbones, you'll be able to see your eyes again! The eyes were a big one for me. When I look at pics of myself from my heaviest times, you couldn't tell I had beautiful eyes, now they stand out like they always should have.

But more than that, think of how much healthier you're going to be! Even if you think you look 5 years older, your body will be at least a decade younger without that weight! And you'll feel good!

There will be things that bother you about the way you look after. I hated all the loose, drooping skin so I had it removed. Cross that bridge when you get there. You can always make more changes if you decide you need them to feel good about yourself.
 
Badgy said:
If you don't mind me asking, how old are you? I'm 52, 53 in May. I look at all those Instagram successes and don't think I'll be looking all that hot after surgery. Seems over 50 look older in the face as they get thinner. I'm thinking I'm going to lose my hair and look wrinkled. Lol. Somebody please tell me I'm wrong.
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okay, well, i've posted this photo a billion times, but maybe you haven't seen it. I was almost 57 when it was taken almost a year after surgery.

You're wrong.

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but start now, buying some of the high-end facial creams with hyurlonic acid. That stuff really works. And use Albolene to finish your face with a hot rag after you wash it with soap. it will be magically soft and unwrinkly.

Here's one I took 5 minutes ago, just out of the shower, no makeup. I'm going to be 69 years old this summer.

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dianeseattle said:
okay, well, i've posted this photo a billion times, but maybe you haven't seen it. I was almost 57 when it was taken almost a year after surgery.

You're wrong.

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but start now, buying some of the high-end facial creams with hyurlonic acid. That stuff really works. And use Albolene to finish your face with a hot rag after you wash it with soap. it will be magically soft and unwrinkly.

Here's one I took 5 minutes ago, just out of the shower, no makeup. I'm going to be 69 years old this summer.

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Beautiful!!! We should all be so lucky! And the side by side comparison just proves my statement about the eyes standing out so much more after weight loss. :)
 
dianeseattle said:
okay, well, i've posted this photo a billion times, but maybe you haven't seen it. I was almost 57 when it was taken almost a year after surgery.

You're wrong.

View attachment 2568

but start now, buying some of the high-end facial creams with hyurlonic acid. That stuff really works. And use Albolene to finish your face with a hot rag after you wash it with soap. it will be magically soft and unwrinkly.

Here's one I took 5 minutes ago, just out of the shower, no makeup. I'm going to be 69 years old this summer.

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oh, and by the way, i smoked for years and years and years, which caused a lot of my facial wrinkling. Imagine how smooth my upper lip would be if I hadn't ever smoked.
 
spookykool said:
Hi I am excited and nervouse about everything. I am scared that my doctor will cancel my surgery cause he asked me to loose 40 lbs I lost 25 and gained 3 back. I have appointment tomorrow and I just ate a muffin. I am scared I won't be able to do the 2 week presurgey liquid diet. I am scared that I won't loose the weight after surgery. I am scared about what it's going to be like not to be fat anymore. When I was not fat I felt like people treated me like I was dumb. Now that I am fat people treat me way more respectable. They want to hear what I say. I am scared about being scared since I've been fat people think I'm a tuff chick. I am scared of men hitting on me again it's been nice just being able to be friends with men and not having them all over me. I am scared I won't be successful that I'll screw this up somehow. Am i weird or are these normal fears? I haven't even said most of them yet. I know in nk my heart it's all gonna be fine but boy oh boy do i let my head make me crazy sometimes. So back to my original question how do you not starve to death or cheat on the pre surgery diet? The one thing I do know is that if I can do this quit smoking quit eating at sometime I should be able to do anything. Those of you that are ahead of me and have done it my hat is off to you congrats bravo you should really be proud of yourself. I haven't even gotten to the worst part yet and I'm shaking iny boots
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Im pre-surgery going on my 4th visit next week.....but i definitely relate to a lot of your fears. You don't need to worry because I'm hear for you to talk to anytime. Im right behind you in our new skinny more healthy new life! Contact me anytime if you need support!
 
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