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Surgery some time in September!!!

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Denise18

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Pretty much all of my life I've been a heavy girl. I am now 24 years old and I am going to be having Surgery in September as long as everything goes well with my Cardiologist on August 2nd. I am currently 349lbs but before I began this program a few months ago I was 374lbs. I'm starting to get really nervous because August is almost here and that leaves me with 1 month before surgery. I was so excited at first because all I have ever wanted was to be smaller in which I still am excited just nervous about messing up at all after the fact. I try to keep myself motivated and remind myself of how much more I will be able to do with my 5 year old son. I also think I am starting to feel all these emotions because a few weeks ago my fiance (my biggest supporter) and I split up after being together for 7 years. Does anybody have any tips on how to deal with everything mentally at this point??? I'm wishing everyone who has surgery coming up sooner than mine the best wishes!!!
 
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Pretty much all of my life I've been a heavy girl. I am now 24 years old and I am going to be having Surgery in September as long as everything goes well with my Cardiologist on August 2nd. I am currently 349lbs but before I began this program a few months ago I was 374lbs. I'm starting to get really nervous because August is almost here and that leaves me with 1 month before surgery. I was so excited at first because all I have ever wanted was to be smaller in which I still am excited just nervous about messing up at all after the fact. I try to keep myself motivated and remind myself of how much more I will be able to do with my 5 year old son. I also think I am starting to feel all these emotions is because a few weeks ago my fiance (my biggest supporter) and I split up after being together for 7 years. Does anybody have any tips on how to deal with everything mentally at this point??? I'm wishing everyone who has surgery coming up sooner than mine the best wishes!!!
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Denise18! You sound ready but it also sounds like you got a curve ball thrown in there with your fiance. Grab hold of all the support you can manage during this tough time! Reach out to friends, family and support groups like us! There are some on Facebook, too. Remember, food is not the answer. When I got ready for surgery and afterward I kept telling myself that food was just a minor part of my life and too much was poison. I convinced myself that my protein drinks were the perfect fuel for me.
You got this. Keep in touch!
 
So sorry about your break up. That is all the more reason to take care of yourself. You are so young and so much fun, life to live with your son.
Make your self a priority right now. I think most of us at one point or another are scared. I know I still panic a bit because my surgery is August 5th.
Other times, I think why did I not do this 10 years ago. That is how long I have been tossing around surgery in my head. It was fear that kept me from having RNY but I am ready now.
I hope that you make the decision that is right for you.
Keep us updated.
 
Denise 18!! Don’t sweat the small stuff like losing your fiancé. I know if painful. But you are starting a new life for you and you son. You will be healthier, and happier. As for support this group,family friends. You need to hear positive things. People who are going to left you up. You wait until the first time he sees you in that little black dress it will be mum. My doctor and talked about what would be the best procedure for me. We both decided on the sleeve. Right now I’m on the schedule for 09/03. Good luck to you
 
Hi Denise! I am new to this forum and I have surgery coming up next week! I am all kinds of nervous. I recently got out of a long term relationship and it was very difficult emotionally, I had to remind myself to take care of myself and do what is best for me. Everyday I as practicing different types of self care, no matter how minute it seemed and it helped so much. Not sure when you surgery is but best of luck!
 
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