I am 39 and very overweight. I have sort of consistently gained weight since college and have a child at 30 I gained even more. I have tried various weight loss programs and have some success but then failure and I gain to a point that I weigh more than when I started. I am sure this is a familiar story to many. But I have a friend that did the sleeve and her success is making me curious. I used to think that I was too afraid to have surgery and also that what if it shortened my life by having a surgery like this. I am also feeling weird because I feel like I can't do this on my own so I feel weak even thinking about surgery to lose weight. I am just wondering how others have gotten over that first step of talking to the doctor. I don't even think my doctor would be supportive. I just don't even know how to begin.