StinkerBelle
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OK, yesterday I received a call from my mom, she is crying and freaking out.
My mother(adoptive) is afraid I am losing to much weight and that I am way to thin, Seriously.
I listened to her rant about how tired I always look because my eyes are baggy, keep in mind I am up at 4 am, have olive shaped eyes and have lost well over 120 + pounds since 11/2013, something she apparently is not capable of understanding much less reasoning things out.
Then she started to cry and tell me how worried she is that I am looking so thin, gaunt and tired, Please I am wearing a 14/ 16 (down from a size 32).
I politely reminded her that this is the smallest I have been since 3rd grade and she is not used to seeing me this small.
She continued to cry and carry on. I then reminded her that my WLS Surgeon did not become one of the top two in the world by neglecting or providing poor care and support. This is when she went into full weirdness mode. She then told me that she does not trust any Dr.'s judgment, her, mine or anyone else's Dr.'s for that matter and that I really need to take better care of myself..
I explained to her that if I did have any of the issues she is ranting about I would not be able to walk / Jog 5 miles per day much less deal with strength training and swimming.
This is the very same woman who would do whatever it took to sabotage my previous attempts at weight loss over the years. She would go to the extremes of having cakes, candies, pizza's and other horrible nasty's delivered to me at school, work, home and other places within a week of me loosing 20 pounds. OR she would cook things she knew I loved and would gorge on.
Anyone seeing a pattern yet?
Now also keep in mind that my mother has never, ever had a weight issue and has always been a seriously skinny minny who is a mirror image of Ava Gardner.
My father on the other hand would bribe me with promises of designer wardrobes, Dior or whomever I chose if I would loose 50 pounds....
My husband made a very interesting observation about my mother last night.. He believes she is jealous that I will be smaller than her...
I am appalled at her behavior..
I spoke to my sister this morning who also brought up my mothers history of sabotage and warned me that I need to be prepared for my mom to show up with chocolates, cookies and ice cream... I told my sissy that I would walk my mom and her bag-o-crap into the kitchen and promptly toss it all into the disposal and give the crap a swirly in front of my mother... My sister thought that was great.
My sister told me that she never understood why our mother has done that to me over the years...
My sister asked me what I weigh and I told her + the size I am now in and she believes that I am fine and told me how proud she is of me which is something my sister has never said or told me...
My sister is about as or more appalled with our mother than I am...
My mother(adoptive) is afraid I am losing to much weight and that I am way to thin, Seriously.
I listened to her rant about how tired I always look because my eyes are baggy, keep in mind I am up at 4 am, have olive shaped eyes and have lost well over 120 + pounds since 11/2013, something she apparently is not capable of understanding much less reasoning things out.
Then she started to cry and tell me how worried she is that I am looking so thin, gaunt and tired, Please I am wearing a 14/ 16 (down from a size 32).
I politely reminded her that this is the smallest I have been since 3rd grade and she is not used to seeing me this small.
She continued to cry and carry on. I then reminded her that my WLS Surgeon did not become one of the top two in the world by neglecting or providing poor care and support. This is when she went into full weirdness mode. She then told me that she does not trust any Dr.'s judgment, her, mine or anyone else's Dr.'s for that matter and that I really need to take better care of myself..
I explained to her that if I did have any of the issues she is ranting about I would not be able to walk / Jog 5 miles per day much less deal with strength training and swimming.
This is the very same woman who would do whatever it took to sabotage my previous attempts at weight loss over the years. She would go to the extremes of having cakes, candies, pizza's and other horrible nasty's delivered to me at school, work, home and other places within a week of me loosing 20 pounds. OR she would cook things she knew I loved and would gorge on.
Anyone seeing a pattern yet?
Now also keep in mind that my mother has never, ever had a weight issue and has always been a seriously skinny minny who is a mirror image of Ava Gardner.
My father on the other hand would bribe me with promises of designer wardrobes, Dior or whomever I chose if I would loose 50 pounds....
My husband made a very interesting observation about my mother last night.. He believes she is jealous that I will be smaller than her...
I am appalled at her behavior..
I spoke to my sister this morning who also brought up my mothers history of sabotage and warned me that I need to be prepared for my mom to show up with chocolates, cookies and ice cream... I told my sissy that I would walk my mom and her bag-o-crap into the kitchen and promptly toss it all into the disposal and give the crap a swirly in front of my mother... My sister thought that was great.
My sister told me that she never understood why our mother has done that to me over the years...
My sister asked me what I weigh and I told her + the size I am now in and she believes that I am fine and told me how proud she is of me which is something my sister has never said or told me...
My sister is about as or more appalled with our mother than I am...
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