Sorry you are having such a hard time. Just remember..... if she says no, go elsewhere. In fact, all they can really do is advise. She may ask you to go to a counseling session or two, but that's about it. I hated the social worker that I saw. She was a bossy now-it-all and everything I said, she turned around. I finally just shut up and agreed with everything she said. And I passed.
This can be a long journey. Some people can't get a date for up to 9 months, all the while going thru all the motions. Just don't get discouraged. It will come together if you are persistent.
Always come here for help. We all have had different experiences, but the journeys are similar.