Kathi_S
Member
The comfortable in our own skin post got me thinking. I know, you probably didn't think that was possible, but occasionally it happens!
As an obese person, there are times I have lied to myself and convinced myself that I was perfectly happy with how I looked.
Deep down, I knew it wasn't true, especially when we moved to Boulder, CO, one of the most fit cities in the country. Athletes come here to train. I stick out like a sore thumb here. I do most of my shopping and all of my swimming in the city just north of us, where I fit (pun intended) in much better.
So my question is, when they say to be comfortable in your own skin, or promote big is beautiful, or whatever, does anyone ever really buy into it? Or is it just a temporary thing to do to make them feel better about themselves for a while.
When I told an obese friend of my husband's that I was having bariatric surgery, his response was "why would you take one of the greatest pleasures of life away from yourself"? My response to him was "Because I want to continue living to enjoy all the other pleasures in life".
Now I know men and women feel differently about their bodies. Culture has put much more emphasis on a woman's weight than on a man's. A man does not get judged until he becomes morbidly obese, while a woman becomes critized when she is chubby.
Over the years, I've been told by many people that I shouldn't be obsessed about my body image. I am what God made me. I don't believe that either. I was brought into this world a normal sized baby girl.
Unfortunately for me, I was born into a family of parents who believed chubby was healthy. Parents who had six kids, and then went on to become alcoholics, and left the responsibility of taking care of their brood to their eldest daughter (me).
I could only cook what we had in the house, mostly hamburger helper and stuff like that. All of us grew up obese. It was the lifestyle we led. We knew no other.
All of my life, I have been worried about eating in public. Are people watching me? Do they think, that is why she is so fat?
So anyway, what happens to get us to the point of bariatric surgery? If it was my decision alone, I would have done it 20 years ago. My husband though believed it was taking the easy way out, and it took 20 years of losing and gaining, and finally a skyrocketing A1C and several doctors to finally convince him that I NEED this surgery.
What convinced you?
As an obese person, there are times I have lied to myself and convinced myself that I was perfectly happy with how I looked.
Deep down, I knew it wasn't true, especially when we moved to Boulder, CO, one of the most fit cities in the country. Athletes come here to train. I stick out like a sore thumb here. I do most of my shopping and all of my swimming in the city just north of us, where I fit (pun intended) in much better.
So my question is, when they say to be comfortable in your own skin, or promote big is beautiful, or whatever, does anyone ever really buy into it? Or is it just a temporary thing to do to make them feel better about themselves for a while.
When I told an obese friend of my husband's that I was having bariatric surgery, his response was "why would you take one of the greatest pleasures of life away from yourself"? My response to him was "Because I want to continue living to enjoy all the other pleasures in life".
Now I know men and women feel differently about their bodies. Culture has put much more emphasis on a woman's weight than on a man's. A man does not get judged until he becomes morbidly obese, while a woman becomes critized when she is chubby.
Over the years, I've been told by many people that I shouldn't be obsessed about my body image. I am what God made me. I don't believe that either. I was brought into this world a normal sized baby girl.
Unfortunately for me, I was born into a family of parents who believed chubby was healthy. Parents who had six kids, and then went on to become alcoholics, and left the responsibility of taking care of their brood to their eldest daughter (me).
I could only cook what we had in the house, mostly hamburger helper and stuff like that. All of us grew up obese. It was the lifestyle we led. We knew no other.
All of my life, I have been worried about eating in public. Are people watching me? Do they think, that is why she is so fat?
So anyway, what happens to get us to the point of bariatric surgery? If it was my decision alone, I would have done it 20 years ago. My husband though believed it was taking the easy way out, and it took 20 years of losing and gaining, and finally a skyrocketing A1C and several doctors to finally convince him that I NEED this surgery.
What convinced you?