Emacc08
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I just need to vent really. I mentioned before my boyfriend wasn't completely on board. He is SO supportive the closer we get to my surgery, making sure i am doing my pre op diet correctly (which is hard when he can eat whatever!) he told me hes nervous, but excited for my health. I am pretty lucky with him.
I tried to tell my mom. However she made comments before about weight loss surgery. (she has lost weight naturally, she has been heavier my whole life, but now shes working on losing weight after her breast cancer remission and i am so proud and happy for her)
The conversation was about my grandmother (she doesn't take care of herself, at almost 400 lbs, uncontrolled DM, etc) i told my mom, "if she would consider this surgery, or even making the small changes, she could have a longer life, and be so much healthier.) my mom proceeds to say "surgery isn't an option, its a way out, and doesn't work, plus there are so many hoops to jump through, its ridiculous people go through this." soooo i never did tell her what i was having done, just that i was having a hernia repair (which isn't a complete lie) and that i am doing it in Seattle so my boyfriend will be taking me. (we live 3.5 hours away)
I guess my worry is, i will be 4 days post op so stage 2 diet, and we do part of Christmas with her (she is my last parent alive). I know she will ask a bunch of questions but between her and the rest of my family, i don't want them to know anything cause i know how unsupportive they will be. So i am secretly dreading Christmas a bit more this year.
Anyways, thanks for listening, i just needed to get that off my chest.
I tried to tell my mom. However she made comments before about weight loss surgery. (she has lost weight naturally, she has been heavier my whole life, but now shes working on losing weight after her breast cancer remission and i am so proud and happy for her)
The conversation was about my grandmother (she doesn't take care of herself, at almost 400 lbs, uncontrolled DM, etc) i told my mom, "if she would consider this surgery, or even making the small changes, she could have a longer life, and be so much healthier.) my mom proceeds to say "surgery isn't an option, its a way out, and doesn't work, plus there are so many hoops to jump through, its ridiculous people go through this." soooo i never did tell her what i was having done, just that i was having a hernia repair (which isn't a complete lie) and that i am doing it in Seattle so my boyfriend will be taking me. (we live 3.5 hours away)
I guess my worry is, i will be 4 days post op so stage 2 diet, and we do part of Christmas with her (she is my last parent alive). I know she will ask a bunch of questions but between her and the rest of my family, i don't want them to know anything cause i know how unsupportive they will be. So i am secretly dreading Christmas a bit more this year.
Anyways, thanks for listening, i just needed to get that off my chest.