I need to vent a little I hope it is OK> I had been on and off this list for surgery for 3 years. My family kept having disasters that I had to help with taking up the time and moving me off the list. The first time I lost 27 lbs then dropped, the next time I lost 45lbs and dropped this time I lost40 lbs before surgery all in 2 years on my own. I maintained the weight losses. No one said anything to me about it! My friends or my family. I have the surgery finally 4 days after surgery I put out a picture on Facebook to people who had seen all the time and those that had seen me at a reunion 4 weeks before. I had only lost 6 lbs and everyone was ranting and raving on how good I looked. 
I was so mad and hurt that they were all saying how much the surgery had changed me. It was like the never noticed my struggle before the surgery. I was not heavy as a child or as a teen I never got heavy until I got pregnant. Most of my friends we have know each other since elementary school. And still hang out. So I felt like these " friends" didn't really look at me or pay attention to me for at least 4 years and that hurt! big time. I had to stop going to our gatherings because I became so angry of the " surgery really helped you" I wanted to punch someone. I have been think and I have been heavy so I know the phony people on both ends. But to have your best friends not see the me I was just sucked. I didn't do this to be thin or to look good. I did it to get off all the meds i had to take, I have been able to get off type 2 diabetics meds now. I have always been comfortable in my skin no matter how big it was. My mantra was there horses and there are horses. Some are Kentucky Trotters, some are Clydesdales, But both clean up real good and are beautiful! But when you Kentucky trotters are done with your short 1/4 mile race us Clydesdales will still be pulling the wagon, and still looking good. We will out work you always!
Now that i am loosing I still feel the same way! It is for health not looks! And all these friends who go for looks weren't even looking!
I was so mad and hurt that they were all saying how much the surgery had changed me. It was like the never noticed my struggle before the surgery. I was not heavy as a child or as a teen I never got heavy until I got pregnant. Most of my friends we have know each other since elementary school. And still hang out. So I felt like these " friends" didn't really look at me or pay attention to me for at least 4 years and that hurt! big time. I had to stop going to our gatherings because I became so angry of the " surgery really helped you" I wanted to punch someone. I have been think and I have been heavy so I know the phony people on both ends. But to have your best friends not see the me I was just sucked. I didn't do this to be thin or to look good. I did it to get off all the meds i had to take, I have been able to get off type 2 diabetics meds now. I have always been comfortable in my skin no matter how big it was. My mantra was there horses and there are horses. Some are Kentucky Trotters, some are Clydesdales, But both clean up real good and are beautiful! But when you Kentucky trotters are done with your short 1/4 mile race us Clydesdales will still be pulling the wagon, and still looking good. We will out work you always!Now that i am loosing I still feel the same way! It is for health not looks! And all these friends who go for looks weren't even looking!
