Just over 2 years out

[mnjulie]

Hi...I'm just a litttle over 2 years out. I had VSG surgery. I find that I am maintaining and my doc says this is good. But I am not where I want to be. He says I have lost the "proper" amount for my surgery. But I want to lose more and have stalled. I have lost 107 pounds. I want to lose about 100 more. That would make me around 150. But even with exercise and more healthy eating, the scale is not moving. I do notice my clothes fit different but not much. I am discouraged. I know at times, I do get into emotional eating. I also live in the part of the country in which comfort foods are a big part of life (family traditions). I am a single mom of a 10 year old who loves junk and I am trying and have been trying to get her to eat more healthy by just having more healthy choices in the house. But that isn't working either all the time.
I just I am just plain frustrated.
Julie

 

[Kim M]

Welcome to the forum. I am almost 17 months post op and decided I am in the maintenance stage. I wanted to lose another 5 pounds, but my body seems to like this weight. My surgeon never set a goal for me and I didn't either until about 1 yr post op. I don't think you are done if you don't want to be. The surgery can only do so much and then like before it is up to us to make a choice each time we eat. You have lost a great deal of weight and you should be proud of this accomplishment. I would encourage you to continue until you feel you have reached a place both physically and emotionally you are content with. Are you able to exercise? Maybe you and your daughter can do something physical together. I understand the stressors of being a single mom. You could talk with your daughter and decide to live a healthier lifestyle together. If it's not in the house, you can't eat it. I am Italian and get family gatherings being all about the food. I am creating new traditions that don't have to do with food. I'm sorry you are frustrated. When I feel this way, I just go back to basics. I still weigh my food and always plan ahead. For me the hardest work has been in my head. There are some good books about emotional eating out there that you could probably get a your local library. A good support system is key. Hope you keep coming back. You are not alone.