Kim,
I had the roux-en-y on 06/06/12 along w/primary surgery for a large hiatal hernia; I was given the standard answer of 6-8 wks. I initially thought that was an incredibly long length of time but now see that it really isn't.
I know my boss would like me to come back as soon as possible but there are a lot of considerations to take into account for my job & the prep and time I will need to add to the amount of time I'm at work to accommodate eating while I'm there as well which I've told her about some time ago along w/the HR Mgr.
The HR Mgr told me months ago not to rush things and truly take the time I need & letter the surg determine when I can be released to either part-time or full-time work again. The old me would have plowed through everything constantly begging to get to go back but I'm listening to my body, the HR Mgr, parents & the vast amounts of information that the Bariatric Team has provided.
I've made up my mind that I'm going to be completely honest with how I truly feel, what's going on & the medical evaluations. Also, I need to make sure my head is in the right place & I've got the endurance. I do payroll, accounting, etc. & the grind can be mentally intense in my work environment especially reacting to others' lack of planning & accommodating deadlines they know I have well in advance. For these reasons I'm going to be the new me and not rush things. I imagine my surg doesn't want me to have anymore setbacks & will work w/me on a reasonable return to date & whether or not that may include part-time work initially. Ultimately, I'm the only one who knows what going back will bring.
Good luck, listen to your body & be honest w/yourself & medica professionals. They know if you're milking it & most likely share your concerns & will go with the conservative approach to protect you.