I wish I would have had more information about what happens after the losing phrase ends. I knew how to do that as I have been doing that all my life. I know little about being at a healthy weight and maintaining it. I have very little experience with this. I wish more people would stick around after they have lost their weight to share their experiences. For me this is when I need the most support. I don't want to come back here talking about getting back on track as I have regained. First of all I am not a train and don't need to get back on track. I need to live my life in peace without food obsession. For me I really think that will be the measure of my success. The thing is I know that this will not just happen one day and that will be it forever. Just feeling like a baby that is learning to walk and will fall down, but as long as I keep getting up I will be okay. I guess being in uncharted territory is making me a little cranky. Well that is what I wish I had given more thought to before surgery. I am going to see my surgeon next week. At one time they were talking about running a maintenance group. I think this is a crucial time for WLS patients.
This is so important. You raise a very good point. We have all learned to lose and gain and to lose and gain and to lose, etc., etc.
Here is what my anticipation is. I have a new stomach. It is small. I am not going to do anything to make it grow too large. I am learning new and important lifelong habits such as 1/2 cup is a meal; maybe some day 1 full cup is a meal.
I enjoy a new benefit of this operation (gastric by-pass). I feel no hunger ever. So food has become a fuel. I do make sure I consume 800-1000 calories per day. I am challenged right now to reach that level each day. Isn't that amazing? Challenged to get to 800-1000 calories where before this lifestyle change I could easily consume in excess of 1000 calories at a single meal.
After the body finds the "maintenance" weight, which I suspect will be somewhere around 180 to 190 for me, I will be able to consume 1200 calories. Again, no sense of hunger as a result of the operation and by this time a 1 year or more of training on this new way of eating for the rest of my life. I have heard many times it takes 90 days to make a habit. Well by the time I reach 180 to 190 or whatever my maintenance weight becomes, I will be doing this for at least a year.
Another important factor is that I will be going to bariatric support groups and surround myself with successful people who have "maintained" for years and enjoy listening to their stories as they encourage newcomers. I will become a success story and pass it forward.
Can you defeat this new tool that we have? Sure you can. I met a few people who did just that. For me, that would be a very difficult road to follow after I have sacrificed so much and have gone through a major surgery to get this far.
No, I am not going to worry about maintenance now for at least a year and when it happens I do not believe I will need to worry about that either. Of course, I chose what I believe to be the ultimate success operation, the gastric by-pass, which technically is irreversible. But then again, there are surgeons who have reversed this process on patients for whatever reasons those patients have had.
So, maintenance will be a new joy for me when it occurs a year to a year and half from now.
I don't know if I have helped. The key is you will not be alone unless you choose to be alone. Find a group now as you begin your journey. Join it. Attend it. Stick to it.
Best wishes,
Ralph