My husband had gastric bypass on June 24. Two days after he came home from hospital, he was eating fried egg, cottage cheese, lettuce with ranch dressing among other things. I would tell him he can eat that which led to arguments. During his first visit to surgeon after surgery, he told doctor he was vomiting and was asked if he was following the plan they gave him. He said yes at which time I informed doctor what he was eating. Doctor blasted him and told him not to waste his time if he wasn't going to follow the plan. Getting yelled at brought him to tears. When we got home, he proceeded to vomit for 4 hours. This scared him I think and he started to follow the plan. He has lost 40 pounds since surgery. The problem I'm now having with him is that he just doesn't stop putting foods that are allowed at this point and drinking. He will eat an entire can of soup, a package of frozen spinach, a can of veggies, and whatever else he's allowed. He does not follow the planned portion size. Since his surgery, I have not eaten but have followed the plan given to him thinking that by doing so, I'm supporting him. I'm obese myself so following this is also making me shed pounds. Each time I talk to him about his habits we wind up again in arguments. It got to a point where I told him I'm done and I'm not saying another word to him that I don't care what he does anymore. I'm thinking that he's just not handling this emotionally and that's why it's not stop eating. I'm at my wits end. I'm afraid that he is going to do more harm then good to himself. He was 344 at time of surgery. As I said, he has lost 40 pounds so I don't know if I'm worrying for nothing. I just don't know what to do anymore. He has a support group meeting, which is his first since surgery, on July 26. I was going to go but now I'm thinking what is the point....he doesn't listen to me anyway so why should I go. Sorry this is so long but I'm so frustrated and don't know what to do. Am I worrying needlessly? Help!!