dianeseattle
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I don't know about you, but man, did my siblings try to diminish and sabotage my weight loss. That's why I never told them about my surgery. I knew I'd just hear every day about how i'd cheated, and my weight loss didn't count because it was induced by surgery etc. I just saw this graphic posted on social media:
In my case, the dysfunctional jerks who are my siblings (five sisters, two brothers except two sibs have now died) could NOT SHUT UP about my weight loss and insisting I was lying about how it happened when I told them (truthfully) that' I'd embarked on an eating plan that didn't include much sugar or fat and did include very pure protein and a gallon of water every day.
They tried so hard to trip me up. Because my family is so big (7 sibs, 70 first cousins, 18 pair of aunts/uncles), I just had to stop visiting them until they got over the novelty of finding a new way to shame me. They'd picked on my all my life--You're ugly, your nose is too big, you have a lisp, your teeth are crooked--you get it.
I still live far away from them and no longer take the initiative to visit them. They are welcome to visit me, but they never do, even when they come to Seattle to go shopping or see the sights. It used to hurt so much. But eventually I understood that I'd broken ranks and betrayed them, and that was all they could see. They were incapable of eating in a healthy manner, and once I broke ground, no way were they going to follow my example unless they could make it seem like I had copied them.
Anyone else here experience family/friend sabotage? If so, what were the reasons given? Did it happen in groups, like being ganged up on? Did you give in and start believing them?
In my case, the dysfunctional jerks who are my siblings (five sisters, two brothers except two sibs have now died) could NOT SHUT UP about my weight loss and insisting I was lying about how it happened when I told them (truthfully) that' I'd embarked on an eating plan that didn't include much sugar or fat and did include very pure protein and a gallon of water every day.
They tried so hard to trip me up. Because my family is so big (7 sibs, 70 first cousins, 18 pair of aunts/uncles), I just had to stop visiting them until they got over the novelty of finding a new way to shame me. They'd picked on my all my life--You're ugly, your nose is too big, you have a lisp, your teeth are crooked--you get it.
I still live far away from them and no longer take the initiative to visit them. They are welcome to visit me, but they never do, even when they come to Seattle to go shopping or see the sights. It used to hurt so much. But eventually I understood that I'd broken ranks and betrayed them, and that was all they could see. They were incapable of eating in a healthy manner, and once I broke ground, no way were they going to follow my example unless they could make it seem like I had copied them.
Anyone else here experience family/friend sabotage? If so, what were the reasons given? Did it happen in groups, like being ganged up on? Did you give in and start believing them?